Is this a situationship? A 3-minute check.
A situationship is the in-between: more than a fling, less than a relationship, and undefined on purpose. This free 3-minute check reads how clear and committed your thing actually is, so you stop guessing. It's a self-reflection, not relationship advice.
Thinking about this person, how true is each statement?
This is a light self-reflection check, not relationship or clinical advice. Only you know your situation; a psychologist can help you think it through.
Original ElloMind self-check. For reflection and fun, not a clinical tool.
What is a situationship?
A situationship is a relationship that stays undefined on purpose: more than casual, less than committed, with no label and often no talk about the future. They are common, and they are not automatically bad, plenty of people are happy in them. The trouble starts when one person quietly wants more clarity than the other.
This free check reads how undefined your thing actually is, and whether it is leaving you anxious or shrinking yourself to keep it easy. It is for reflection, not relationship advice.
Signs you're in a situationship
- You have never actually defined what you are.
- Plans are last-minute and the future never comes up.
- You overthink what their messages mean.
- When you try to talk about 'us', it gets dodged.
- You feel anxious or low after spending time together.
Common questions
What is a situationship?
A situationship is a romantic or sexual connection that is intentionally undefined, more than a fling, less than a committed relationship, with no label and usually no talk about the future.
Is a situationship a bad thing?
Not necessarily. A situationship can work if both people genuinely want something undefined. It tends to hurt when one person wants more clarity or commitment than the other and stays quiet about it.
How do I get out of a situationship?
Get honest with yourself about what you want, then say it plainly and watch how they respond. If they avoid the conversation or you keep feeling anxious afterwards, that is information. You are allowed to want clarity, and to walk away.
Is this quiz serious?
It is a light, original self-reflection check, for clarity and a bit of fun, not clinical or relationship advice. If a relationship is affecting your wellbeing, talking to a psychologist can help.
Sources
- Original ElloMind self-check. For reflection, not a clinical or relationship-counselling tool.